The Power of Long-Distance Relationships: A Love Beyond Boundaries

Let’s start with one of my favorite Quotes:

As you can see, I am a strong believer in long-distance relationships, and there are many reasons for this belief. Before diving into those reasons, let’s first understand what a long-distance relationship truly is.

When two people live far apart, communicating through phone calls, emails, or any other means without meeting in person, and slowly, gradually, feelings start to develop—they begin to love each other and crave being together forever. That’s a long-distance relationship.

In a long-distance relationship, the craving is always there. The need for each other is ever-present, and the struggle is real. When you work hard without even knowing if you’ll ever be with the person, that’s a genuine feeling. This feeling is real in most cases, so if this feeling goes deep and turns into love, that love becomes unbreakable. This kind of love creates love stories; this kind of love makes God proud.

God and Us: A Spiritual Long-Distance Relationship

The main theme of religion is iman, which is the first pillar of a Religion. Iman is an Arabic word that means faith. The first rule of faith is that God will not show Himself, but we need to believe in Him, love Him, and worship Him. We can use all the logic, search for His signs to love Him, but we can’t see Him; He will never show up, but still, we need to keep trusting Him—that’s iman.

Logically, this is a big test, and that’s why iman is very important. According to God, He doesn’t literally live near us. He has His own kingdom, His own throne, and He sits there. On the other hand, we humans live on this tiny Earth, far from God. But still, a connection can happen. God kept this door open to connect with Him, just like the connection that happened between God and Abraham, Jesus, and Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon them all).

This type of connection and love can happen with us as well if we show our love, loyalty, and sincerity to Him—if we show that we are trustworthy. When this love happens, it becomes a deep love.

By definition and logically, this relationship with God is also a long-distance relationship. It’s actually a harder long-distance relationship because we don’t even talk to God every day. We imagine Him. Everything is in our power of imagination. Imagination is very important for us to be spiritual and for us to be in love. True love starts from imagination. The more colorful your imagination is, the more colorful your love will be.

Soul Connection

What is the soul? In simple words, it is just energy. The soul is the energy that comes from God. As God said, “They ask you about the soul; tell them the soul is the command of God.”

In a long-distance relationship, when you talk to someone and feel the vibe and goodness of that person, when the person makes you grow and does everything to make you happy without even seeing you, then naturally two energies collide and attract each other. Two energies come together without even thinking about the bodies, and when these energies connect, an unbreakable bond forms. This connection becomes so strong that they start feeling each other’s presence, and that’s an amazing feeling. This type of soul connection creates soulmates.

No Desire for the Body

This is very important. Psychologically, when we get attracted to someone’s looks and then do everything to be with that person, it’s pure desire, not love. We need to understand that looks are not in our control; we get our bodies and faces from God. Discriminating against others because of these and choosing someone solely for this is an insult to God’s creativity, and it can be a form of racism. So, when the root itself is wrong, the relationship will break—and in most cases, it does.

If I like you for your body and face, it will become boring after one or two months. Then what? Usually, we get attracted to another body and face. This is happening everywhere. Our bodies are temporary; they will eventually return to the earth, but the soul will remain alive. So, falling in so-called love for the body is not love at all; it’s just a desire to have sex. If you can understand this, your life will be very easy.

I see so many men who first see a girl, then if they like her body shape and face, they want to have sex. But unfortunately, it’s not easy for them to just go and say, “I want to have sex.” So, what do they do?

They propose marriage or love. They buy gifts, chocolates; they praise her so much just to convince her. And as emotional beings, girls fall for these praises without knowing what he really wants. They get married; he gets her body. One day, two days—slowly, he starts getting bored, and then the fighting begins. The feeling goes away, and the relationship becomes toxic. Do you know, statistically, marriages are happening less and breaking more these days? It’s sad but true. In psychology departments, we see more cases of relationship breakups than all other psychological problems.

When love is based on something other than the soul and God, it will break. It’s not love at all; we just call it love to make it sound better. It’s pure desire, and the nature of desire is that it keeps changing.

Marriage

What is marriage? If we understand why the marriage system was created by God, it would be easier to understand why a long-distance relationship can lead to a great married life.

Marriage is a partnership where two people support each other to achieve a common goal. For more, you can read my blog post, How to Choose Your Life Partner.

God sent us to this Earth for a reason, and He said He sent us to worship Him. So, if this is the purpose of our lives, then we need to do everything to fulfill this purpose. When the goal is set, life and focus become easier.

Just imagine life as a journey, and you are walking toward your goal alone. Sometimes you feel exhausted, tired; sometimes you want to give up. You’ll feel it’s so hard and boring. In all these situations, if you have a partner with the same goal, life can be a little less boring and more exciting. When you feel tired, your partner encourages you. When your partner feels exhausted, you inspire them. That’s how the journey of life becomes easier, and reaching the goal becomes a little smoother. This partnership is marriage.

Now, just think, when you know your goal and what kind of partner you need, will you reject someone because of their face or country? No. You wouldn’t care about these things; you’d only care about who shares the same goal as you and who can encourage you to reach that goal. If your target is Jannah (Heaven), then you need to find someone who can encourage you to get there. That’s it. For that, you need to look for the soul. Most of the time, soul connections happen in long-distance relationships because the body is out of sight. That’s why I say:

Long-distance relationships can be hard, but when they happen, they can last a long time—in most cases, forever.

Let me give you an example. Just imagine you and your partner got married after a long-distance relationship, and now you’re together forever. But suddenly, your partner gets into an accident and is badly injured—maybe they lose their face or some body parts. In this situation, would you ever leave your partner? Ask yourself. I am sure your answer would be never.

Why never? Because you fell in love with what’s inside, not the outside. And the inside is still there; the feeling is still there, the love is still there. So you would never leave the person, even if their body loses its charm. But when a marriage or love happens for the body, and if the person loses all their charm, there’s a high possibility that you’ll leave or cheat, sooner or later.

Do All Long-Distance Relationships Work?

Not at all. Most long-distance relationships actually break. Not everyone has the patience for it. We’re not living in the 1900s when relationships happened through letters, and people waited years just to meet. Those love stories were beautiful and so cute—at least to me. These days, we’re busy with desire and entertainment. Songs fuel our desires, movies tell us to go and have sex, so the purity of love is fading.

In this time, it’s hard to wait a long time to meet someone. It takes patience, and we don’t have that patience anymore. That’s why we’re not just avoiding long-distance relationships with other humans; we’re also losing our love for God. We prefer other things over God. If I talk about God and someone else talks about music, you’ll see most people go to the music because they can feel it, it satisfies their desires immediately, while talking about God doesn’t give the same instant pleasure. We’re losing our long-distance relationship with God. If we’re doing that, how can we have patience with another human?

But if you have the patience and know your goal, and if you can do everything without expecting instant rewards, then I guarantee you, long-distance love is pure, amazing, and you will enjoy your marriage forever.

It Can Be a Scam, Right?

Yes, it can be. But because the body is not involved, even if you find out the person is lying to you, and if you don’t accept it, you can break up and the pain will always be less. To avoid scams, always try to observe the person—notice if they change or if they’re just acting good. A person can act well for a few days, but not for a long time. If the person asks for money or something and you don’t fully trust them, do not give any money.

Also, scams can happen anywhere. In a long-distance relationship, after a breakup happens, you can block and move on more easily than in a short-distance relationship. Often, after a breakup in short-distance relationships, the person might chase the other on the road, keep following them, etc. So logically, long-distance is safer. But hey, that doesn’t mean you should just break up. Think about all the positive sides, and if you find true love, keep the love alive.

Are you struggling?

If you are in a long-distance relationship and struggling to keep going, I have a message for you:

Always communicate with your partner about what you’re feeling and work together to find a solution. As I mentioned, it’s easy to break up, but it’s much harder to keep a relationship alive. If you both truly love each other, then nothing can stop you from being together. God is with you because God is all about love. He loves when we love people for their souls.

Think about how far you guys have come. All night you talked with each other, right? You gave so much time to each other, felt each other. Your phone didn’t have balance, so you took a loan, stole money from your parents, spent your pocket money, and gave your savings to keep the balance so that you could talk with your partner. Your house was full of people, but you found ways—went to small rooms, went to the roof, secretly talked with your partner. All that hard work for what? So that you guys can be together. This is beautiful, these memories are beautiful; don’t let them become painful memories.

Just keep working hard to be together. Don’t focus on wealth, luxury, or anything else—just think about your goal and the love you share. If you have love, it means you are blessed. Keep the trust alive. Sooner or later, you’ll be together, and then your smile will never leave your face. Your partner will not only wipe away your tears but also give you a warm hug to calm you down. Soon, everything will be worth it, and you will be proud of your love story. Just a few more days, a few more months.

If you need any help with your long-distance relationship, please feel free to contact me. Thank you.