When you are reading about how to deal with a breakup, then it means either you went through it or you are going through it. So first, whatever your situation, just believe that everything will be ok. Even if you are feeling that you are alone and asking yourself how to deal with a break up alone, it will be ok. Trust the process.
Secondly, trust me, it is not easy to deal with a breakup, especially when you love someone so much and still the person leaves, and not only do they leave, they blame you for all the issues. That can break hearts, so it is not easy at all to deal with it. Even the top psychologists also can go through the pain of a breakup.
While no one can completely take away this pain, this natural process can be managed. In this article, I’ll share some tips that can help ease the burden. The pain will still be there, but even if it becomes a little less, that is a big success.
1. Talk to an Expert or a Psychologist
When you’re upset or stressed, it’s generally a good idea to talk to people, as their vibes can help calm your mind. However, during a breakup, talking to just anyone can make things harder. When you are going through a breakup, you already feel vulnerable, you feel empty, and your mind wants someone just to fill the emptiness .In that situation, If you share your pain to just anyone, you might fall for that person easily, starting a new cycle prematurely.
Additionally, some people might take advantage of your vulnerability. They may have wanted to be with you for a long time and see your sadness as an opportunity to make their move.
Breakup doesn’t mean you should lose yourself. Take every step carefully. Share your feelings with experts or those you trust to heal you without expecting anything in return. In heartbreaks, when you ask people how to deal with a breakup, everyone will have advice. Even though some have never been in this situation, and others have been but had different experiences, they still offer advice. That is why it’s best to forget all this and go to experts.
If you think sharing with experts may cost money and you don’t have the means, it’s okay. There are free online counseling options, motivational talks, or you can even contact me. I will listen and try to be there for you.
2. Avoid Sad and Revenge Songs
If I have to suggest things not to do after a breakup, then this is the first one. After a breakup, it’s common to gravitate toward sad songs and cry. Our minds sometimes need to release the built-up pressure through tears, which is a natural and healthy response. Crying is a way to flush out pain, but forcing yourself to cry by listening to sad songs is a form of self-torture. Sad songs can bring back painful memories and keep you in a cycle of sadness.
Similarly, listening to revenge songs can make you feel temporarily better by cursing and blaming your ex, but it ultimately fosters hatred and bitterness. This isn’t healthy and can make you addicted to negative emotions.
Instead, if you want to watch or listen to something, choose movies or series that are engaging, such as horror thrillers or action movies. These can help distract your mind and keep you focused on the plot, giving you a temporary escape from your pain. Motivational talks, especially those about life and humanity, can also be helpful. They can remind you that life is beautiful and that there are many things and people worth loving, even if one relationship didn’t work out.
3. Try New Things
Keeping yourself isolated and idle after a breakup can deepen the darkness of pain. Instead, try to engage in new activities. Join new classes, learn new skills, or pick up hobbies that you’ve always wanted to try. Whether it’s swimming, learning to play a musical instrument like the guitar or piano, or even studying a new language, these activities will keep your mind occupied. They also provide opportunities to meet new people, which can help you heal more quickly.
4. Channel Your Anger into Self-Improvement
When you love someone deeply and they blame you and leave, it’s natural to feel anger and frustration. Channel this anger into challenging yourself. Focus on self-improvement and set specific goals. For example, aim to get abs in the next month or learn to drive and get a license within a month. Achieving these goals can boost your confidence. A breakup can take away your confidence, but taking on and achieving new challenges can help get back the confidence.
5. Pray if You Believe in God
You trust God, So pray. Prayer can help a lot. Yes, prayer might not heal you instantly, but it can provide hope and a sense of comfort, knowing that a higher power is with you and will help fix your situation.
6. Stay Active and Avoid Isolation
Do not isolate yourself. Even if you are alone in the house, do not just sit and think. Keep yourself busy with different activities. If you have nothing else to do, at least clean the house or cook something.
7. Travel if You Can Afford It
If possible, travel to new places where everything feels like an adventure. New experiences can keep you engaged and offer a fresh perspective, helping to distract you from the pain.
8. Help Others
This is the best option. I believe in it and always suggest it. When you are in pain, try to help others; their prayers can give good energies and good energies can take your bad energies away. Yes, when you are suffering, spend time with people who are suffering more than you. This will make you more humble; help them out the way you can. Their smiles and their tears of joy are enough to heal you.
9. Stop searching for love
When we get betrayed by love, our mind automatically searches for a new love. There is a saying, “Only love can heal the pain that comes from love.”
It is true. If you are in extreme pain and suddenly find a new love, the pain might be less. Many people, in their search for this new love or feeling, go to nightclubs or seek one-night stands. However, these actions often bring more bad energies than good. This temporary love is not true love, so avoid it at all costs. Your body and mind don’t deserve this emotional roller coaster. Instead, focus on loving yourself and draw love from nature and your loved ones. God loves you, so try to connect with Him in this situation. As I always say, light comes when you are broken. When your heart is broken, it can be the best time to connect with God. If you receive His love, everything will be worth it.
Time Heals
Time is the only thing in life that never waits for anyone. It changes, and when it changes, it changes lives.
Time will heal you. If you follow the suggestions I’ve given and keep your hope alive, your mind will gradually become accustomed to your new life and slowly start to forget the old one. That’s why we say time heals. Our minds are designed not to keep replaying the same painful memories. By staying busy in positive ways and allowing time to pass, you will move beyond this pain. When you look back, you might even feel silly for shedding tears over this person.
Stop Criticizing
When someone breaks our hearts, it’s common to criticize them to feel superior and avoid feeling at fault. However, this should not be the way to move forward. Maintain your dignity. If you have something to say, say it to that person directly, but don’t blame them to your friends or family. Let God decide and judge everything. This way, you can be the bigger person. If the situation requires legal intervention, don’t hesitate to speak the truth and criticize in a fair manner.
Don’t Hurt Yourself
Giving up might seem like an easy way out of the pain, but it should never be an option. Remember that you didn’t come into this world by your choice. Your parents decided, and God gave you life. You were once helpless, and everyone around you helped you grow. The sun gives you light, trees give you oxygen, and many people, including your friends, pets, and loved ones, care about you. Do you want to break all their hearts, all their efforts, by hurting yourself only because one person left you? Just think
It’s okay if one person left you; you have many others who love you, and you will find love again. Do not give up. We all want you to live, your body and soul deserve to live and see the better days. Wait for your better days, do not give up. Your better days are coming. Keep the hope alive.
You Deserve Better
Do you know when you were in the womb of your mother, how did you get food there? Your mother could eat and drink and move carefully, but your condition was very sensitive. One mistake could have killed you, but still, you survived. You defeated millions of other sperm and survived. God wanted you to survive because you are special. We were all born as special, but later, through our actions, we can lose this status.
You loved someone truly, and that person broke you. This means that person lost the status of being special, but you are still the special one. Special ones deserve special ones. You always deserve better. Trust yourself and strive to be a better version of yourself. You will find your true love again soon, and when they come, they will never leave you. They will be your soulmate.
Don’t Break Hearts
This section is for people who break hearts easily and enjoy it. I will have a different article about it, but here I want to end this article with a message to them.
The whole article is made for a person whose heart you broke. You might be enjoying yourself now, having broken their heart for your satisfaction even though they loved you truly. But what happiness are you getting by putting someone in extreme pain? Their tears can come as a curse to you. God is watching, karma is watching. When you say “I love you,” mean it; don’t just leave.
Breakup is important when your partner doesn’t love you and causes you pain in every situation. But if they love you truly and you leave only for your desire, then your pain is coming. The nature and God will judge you. Understand the value of love.
If you didn’t break up yet but want to break up, before that judge the relationship, judge if it is fair to break up, is it fair to satisfy your desire and give extreme pain to someone? If you are confused, talk with an expert, talk to me. Contact me, I can try to suggest you. Don’t just break hearts. A broken heart can kill a person inside, don’t do that, you don’t want your karma to keep haunting you, right? I also don’t want that for you, so please, I request, think before you leave, think twice, or 100 times, think from every angle.